St. James Infirmary
"To those not yet old, being old means you've been. But being old also means that despite, in addition to, and in excess of your beenness, you still are. Your beenness is very much alive. You still are, and one is as haunted by the still-being and its fullness as by the having-already-been, by the pastness. Think of old age this way: It's just an everyday fact that one's life is at stake. One cannot evade knowing what shortly awaits one. The silence that will surround one forever. Otherwise it's all the same. Otherwise one is immortal for as long as one lives."
-Philip Roth, The Dying Animal
"...but also and especially because the task of every survivor, that is of the one who temporarily survives the other, the friend, consists in enduring his or her disappearance."
Learning to Live Finally: Interview to Jacques Derrida